Insecurity is a common phenomenon among women, especially young girls, in their love relationships. Sometimes our biggest fears come true, but because of our own anxieties or terrible relationships in the past, we may simply not trust our partner’s feelings. Fortunately, there are a few signs that can let you know if your partner is really interested in you or just using you for his own selfish purposes.
We understand how complicated relationships can be, so we want to clarify how to find out your partner’s true intentions.
Loves you: He looks at you all the time.
The authors of several love songs were right when they said that a man who is really in love with you can’t take his eyes off you. When you get dressed up for Friday night, many men get a certain look. However, if you see him watching you with awe and enthusiasm while you’re doing the usual things, like making dinner or putting on your coat, chances are he’s in love.
He doesn’t make you feel unique, he just uses you.
You don’t feel different from the other girls he’s dated or his buddies. He may constantly compare you to other people or even show no affection for you. What’s more, he may just not have enough attention to appreciate you if you feel like one of many.
He doesn’t panic, even when you expect him to, because he loves you.
It is quite acceptable that for some people having skeletons in the closet can be an obstacle, because we all have them. However, if your partner is still with you after learning a lot about your background, even those instances you are not particularly proud of, he may be more interested in you than you think. A mature relationship and true love show that you accept the whole person, not just their good sides.
Uses you: You have a constant feeling of guilt.
You can’t seem to do anything right, from solving problems at work to buying cat food at the grocery store. If you constantly feel like you’re not enough and could do better no matter what you do, it’s time to leave the relationship. There’s nothing wrong with trying to help your spouse get better, but those adjustments should be made with love and care, not guilt.
He is more aware of how his actions can affect you because he loves you.
We all have some repetitive patterns of behavior, but sometimes we don’t realize how they affect other people. A positive sign is when you notice that your spouse has become more self-aware and is trying to behave in ways that won’t hurt or disappoint you. But keep in mind that it’s best to talk to him about it, rather than relying on him to figure it out on his own if something is bothering you or you want him to behave differently. Do you realize that your boyfriend can’t read your mind?
He uses you by disappearing.
You make an appointment together, but at the last moment he refuses to meet you. Or he doesn’t return your calls or messages for a long time. Yes, sometimes he may be busy, but a person who deeply values you will find time to contact you. You may just be spending time with him when it’s convenient and on his schedule, if it seems like he’s not respecting your time.
Loves you: He pays attention to the little things that bring you joy.
We all like huge gestures, but the most important things are the small ones. He may remember things like your favorite flavor of ice cream, the name of your first pet, or the meaningless TV show you watch when you feel bad. These actions show his genuine interest in you, going beyond the usual gestures of flowers and candy (even though we adore them anyway).
Uses you: He is never ready to make concessions.
Finding compromise can be difficult, especially if your relationship is just beginning, but it’s a goal we should all strive for. Your spouse must accept your point of view and be willing to find the right balance to keep you both happy. If he refuses to give up his “right” to make all decisions, it is definitely time to leave such a dominant relationship.
He cares about you and wants you to do the same.
We all experience vulnerability in our relationships, but it’s hard to create a lasting relationship without being open about your feelings. He will trust you and be able to imagine a future with you if he is willing to overcome his fear of being rejected and be honest with you about his concerns and problems. He is interested in getting to know the real you, not just the attractive armor you put on, and that goes for both sides.